Self Help In Sight

My apologies for any of you who tried to take the Relationship Readiness Survey and ran into an error. It is fixed at this moment but let me know if you run into a problem going forward–you can use the contact page!

It’s been almost two months since I last posted. Not sure how many rules having a large gap in posts breaks, even for a blog with less than a hundred followers, but my apologies to those of you who follow.

People continue to give me good feedback on the book. They may only be trying to be polite but they are saying the right things like “down to earth” and “accessible” and “practical”.

Much of my attention the last couple of months has been on relationships of a non-romantic sort. Many of the same principles of healthy romantic relationships are at work in business and other peer relationships. For example, in teams and groups, it is important to take people as they are, not as you might want them to be (with all the judgment involved in not taking people as they are). It never ceases to amaze me how people, including me, of course, struggle to see the world from another’s point of view and fail to value the importance of a different point of view. This speaks to the value of being both empathetic and appreciative of different views.

My suspicions is that everyone’s life would get a lot richer if they practiced appreciating instead of judging the views of others. If you are looking for someone to spend your time with, one characteristic to weigh heavily is the ability to see and appreciate other’s point of view.

If you have made your way here because you are looking for relief from a relationship loss, you have my sympathies and hope that it will get better for you. If you are looking toward your next relationship, pay attention to how good your new partner is at seeing an appreciating alternative viewpoints. In the long run, this is a special trait!